Why I hate Valentine's Day
80Valentine’s day is a day to celebrate love, hope and romance. A day to tell our partners how much we love them. But what happen with all those who just broke up with their partners? Those who were deceived and do not want to trust in love again? What happens with all those people who are still searching for their soul mate despite years and years of unfruitful searching? Or those who are desperate to find someone to love because they do believe in love. What happens to those who wait in hope that this year their “Valentine” will finally realize that they love them… but they won’t; and they will spend another year alone waiting in hope with a sour smile in their faces.
Honestly, Valentine ’s day might have started as a day to celebrate love but nowadays it has become another day to force people to shop compulsively for things that they don’t need or they don’t want to buy in order to express their love. Most men know that they will be in trouble if they don’t buy an expensive present for their women. So, they buy an expensive present, not as an expression of their love, but as a way to avoid trouble. Like in Monopoly, they are buying their “get out of jail” cards.
Please do not take me wrong, I am a romantic person, a dreamy girl who is still looking for her happy ever after. I believe in love. I love and I am loved dearly but I hate to see how Valentine’s day has become another commercial festivity to sell flowers, chocolates, jewellery, cards with silly messages and stuffed animals. Not just that, but I see my single friends, those who by choice or force are alone and I feel sorry for them on Valentine’s day. Not because they are single, oh no! I feel sorry because all the ones who are in couples make them feel as if they were missing something just because they get a silly little card and a box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day.
Silly Valentine's poems
I said to you, "Oh, please be mine;
Be mine forever, Valentine."
I must have seemed like quite a fool,
Although I thought I was being cool.
Or:
Getting older can be a pain,
But with you along, I can’t complain.
Despite the things that we go through,
I know I’ll never stop loving you.
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Why I hate Valentine’s Day
- Because if I say that I hate Valentine’s Day, most people automatically will think that I am either an old angry spinster or -for those who know me and know that I am neither old or a spinster- I am just having a very rough period in my love life. Neither of them is true, but most people do not understand how someone who is happy in a relationship cannot like and look forwards to Valentine’s Day.
- I never know what to buy as a Valentine’s present. Having just come out of Christmas it is difficult to find another original present for Romeo.
- It has been horrible every time I have been single. All my friends in a relationship had something special planned for February 14th and they felt sorry for me if I said I was staying in watching TV or reading a book. It didn’t bother me at all staying in like any other day, but I felt humiliated at my friends feeling sorry for me!
- When I have been in a relationship the presents have rarely been up to romantic standards. I am a very romantic person. I expect Prince charming to bring the moon down for me. Now when Charming appears with a Hallmark card and a box of chocolates bought at the Esso station –with the price still attached- when he knows I am on a diet… that is disheartening. The worst part is having to pretend to be pleasantly surprised and thankful that he remembered Valentine’s day.
- There are so many beautiful poems in classic literature that it is annoying to read the silly messages written in most commercial cards. Why can Romeo not take 20 minutes of his time and copy for you one of your favourite love poems; even better, why can he not write you a few words of his own! As I mentioned before in the forums, the only Valentine’s card I have ever kept is one a man made for me himself.
- All the couples you know look so in love on Valentine’s day that it sucks! You know he is double timing your friend, but you don’t say anything because she never told him that she was a stripper before she met him, and anyway it is not your business. But all the displays of false perfect love just want to make you throw up. You know that later that night they will be arguing again about something trivial.
- I hate to hear the competitiveness between girls on Valentine’s Day. Someone boasting about their enormous bouquet of flowers, while the other one claims that her man really loves her because he never takes her out but tonight they are going to the best restaurant in the city. Doesn’t she realize that it is only a Valentine’s Day marketing game, he never takes her out except on Valentine’s Day, and she is delighted. Poor girl!
- Valentine’s Day, like weddings, Christmas and New Year’s celebrations bully us into losing weight. Women are desperate to lose all the extra grams that they gained during the Christmas holidays in order to wear their red Valentine’s lingerie. Why wait for Valentine’s, can’t we just lose weight because of ourselves, because we want to look our best ALL the time?
- If you are not in a relationship and you go out with a girlfriend on Valentine’s Day, the odds are that anyone who sees you will think you are a lesbian.
- Valentine’s Day makes men do stupid things like shaving the hair on their back in a heart shape.
- Most men are not very romantic and you will end up disappointed but you’ll boast about your present next day at work anyway.
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In my ideal world I would like to be romanced every single day of the year. I would like to feel loved and needed every day, not just one silly day in the calendar. Why not celebrate love every time we can? I don’t need a special day or a special occasion to tell my boy that I love him that I am head over heels about him. I don’t need someone to remind me in the calendar that it is time to send him a loving card or a message. He doesn’t need a day marked in the calendar to make me feel special.
Valentine’s day might be a positive celebration for the shop keepers, restaurants, jewellers and other businesses, but it doesn’t do much for your relationship.
I am not against genuine demonstrations of love on Valentine’s day, what I am against is simple consumerism to disguise the lack of love.
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Spread love and Happiness I say. Perhaps we should take a leaf out the book ancient Romans style. That way we are bound to be sure to get the men and women of our dreams. Perhaps you would like to read it http://mrslagibb.hubpages.com/hub/Valentine-Valent
It is always hard being single on Valentine's day but I still love the holiday! I am one of those people who sends out valentines day ecards (http://www.rubberchickencards.com/ecards/valentine Spread the love!
I'm so glad I found this post. I told a friend of mine that I really hate valentines day, and she believes that for me to say that I MUST be in an unhappy relationship. I actually have an amazing relationship with my boyfriend, and I told him straight up not to buy me anything for valentines day because I despise that day and all the cliche that goes with it. It just seems so artificial, and most valentine gifts are so unoriginal with no real meaning...Like stuffed bears with flowers...SO lame!.
that is the worst part about Valentine's day, kea. It is over sold and at the end the size of your present means more than your real feelings... I find that sad.
Everyone tries to make money out of it Tomono. restaurants are just an example of this.
I take that as a compliment Silver Poet.
It would be nice to go back to basics Tony.
Yes, any day is good to show your love and I find that it is much better and sincere when you are not expecting it OneCuteCookie.
I like your take on Valentine's day midnightbliss.
You've been lucky Alan, lol
In any event I appreciate more a personal gestures than comercial cards and presents. It is too easy to go online and order chocolates in 5 minutes. Now, cooking something for your lover, that really shows and effort. Thanks for sharing Iðunn
I hope you find him IWantThatPimp.
Never said better Mike.
I hate Valentine's Day too - worse too, the local shops & media have made it into a weekend. I hate being part of someone elses 'agenda' and for that reason I don't recognise it.
By the way I love my wife, she knows it and she doesn't need some crappy Valentine's card, some over priced tosh or a rip off meal for two.
mmmm Wel I didn't read through all the posts because I don’t have time BUT I'm very much sure my scenario might not have surfaced before...or well maybe I'm not so special :) ...maybe I'm just feeling like a lame a$$.
What happens if you are about to get married with your fiancé and both of you agreed not to spent allot of money on this crap day (mind me) and you decide Wel you can't not get her anything or do anything and you get her a small present. Then she phones you and thanks you for the HUGE bunch of flowers with the most romantic message “your eyes is the windows to your heart” pew hew sh!t… which ...uhhmm you didn't send. So know you feel like a total dumb a$$ because you didn't honour this one day. Yes spending time with her is pleasant and wonderful and we make every second of our lives count by loving each other to the fullest. To get to a point of marriage meant we both had to sacrifice allot also fight allot and of course you can never stop loving that person so allot just doesn’t describe it. Point is it is both pleasant BUT hard work to build a relationship and then one arsonal D!ck head comes by and flash some money around while I’m saving money for my honey moon. Yes she is mature and would understand and tell me not to worry and I should take it serious blah blah to make me feel secure ….I hate this day because it makes the real men that will stick to their partner through thick and thin feel like crap sometimes. I honestly hate this day and wanted to share this to get rid of all the emotions running around in my heart...Unfortunately I have not found the pimp yet so the frustration and tension on my hands will not go away by typing a simple message…I hope I find you pimpy
thanks for this nice sharing
nice dear
I'm not big on commercialized holidays either, not any of them. I don't like Christmas being commercialized, Valentines, Mother's Day or any of it really. People can show their loved ones love anytime and in a lot of ways without it being a retailer cash-in.
I've never been one to do much, if anything, on valentines day. Thankfully I havent gotten in very much trouble over it yet... :D
I agree that valentines is now very commercialized that sometimes its more focused on giving expensive gifts. i am single yet I enjoy the spirit of valentines day. I love making messages and poems for the special people in my life. for me I don't need a lover to enjoy the valentines.
I thought this was a very good artical,Valentine's Day,shouldn't be the only day for expressing your love for someone.It should be an everyday thing. OneCuteCookie
Valentines Day is sooooo blown out of proportion, it should be banned.
Witty, individual, honest, I like it!
It's just too commercialised isn't it? And why do all the restaurants charge more than double? If you are a couple then everyday should be special and romantic...
I enjoyed reading your honest opinion! I agree, like every other holiday, V-day has become overly commercialized for the sake of profit.
Thanks for sharing yours sord87.
Keeping up with the masses is so tacky FavorsInTheCity, I am glad you mentioned it.
"Another day to force people to shop compulsively for things that they don’t need or they don’t want to buy in order to express their love"
I totally agree (with you)...and disagree with the societal guilt for not choosing to partake in forced "holidays" and "commercial ventures" (as Robert exclaimed). Keeping up with the masses is not romance, or love, or anything close.
It would be great if you can celebrate valentine with your loved ones especially family members on valentine even though it does not achieve the purpose of valentine's but it really something to remember and keeping the memories!
A quite good perspective on valentine's meaning!Thanks for sharing your point of view!
Interesting point of view danyellealisappi.
Have fun tezgah :-)
That's sweet Naomi, of course you have all the right reasons to like Valentine's Day.
Great hub! I kind of have to like it because my husband proposed to me on Valentine's Day, but I don't see why we need a special day to celebrate love. It's too much pressure.
I like valentines day. I like to go out and enjoy this day.
valentine's day is just a day to share you're love with somebody. if you hate it, it's not because you don't have anybody to share it with. it's because they're scared to share it with you because they don't know how much it would mean. :)
Do you have a "special day" to celebrate or do you just celebrate love every time you can imremarkabletoo?
Because of my wife religion we don't celebrate valentines day, but it doesn't make me hate it. :)
Have a Happy Valentine's Day T. Hugginz :-)
That sounds to me like a great idea Firefly87 !
This is a great post......a friend of mine is also very anti Valentine's day so she puts up a giant anatomically correct picture of a heart on her door every year in honor of the United States' National Heart Month instead.
OMG. Such sad lonely stories. I've never had a bad Valentines Day. I miss the big partys that my friends in LA and NY would host.
Here in Oregon, nothing.
Just rain, rust and rednecks.
I will have a fabulous VD....I have a few surprises for my new love;) this will be fun.
The men up here seem to be starving for ANY semblance of femininity.
That picture really caught my attention, I wonder what he was thinking about jpdennis...
That's not funny at all, I would gladly come with you and help you with those roses -let's make sure they have plenty of thorns ;-)
Maybe some leather slipper's Laura...
Thank you for commenting MPG Narratives.
So happy to see you again Robert. You strike me as a really romantic person. I like men who compliment me unexplectedly, men who bring me flowers because they want to -not because there is a reason behind it.
Like you, I think it is sad when VD becomes a case of how much beauty can you afford...
Thank you for stopping to comment. Have a nice day!
Thank you! It's been rotten for me ever since grade school, when a bullied kid always winds up getting cards only from those kids required to give cards to all the kids in the class. Who then choose the meanest cards in the pack of kid cards making fun of your weight, limp, ugliness, whatever.
Most of my life I wasn't in a relationship on the holiday. When I was though, we tended to gripe together about it and then look forward to a big blowout on Cheap Chocolates Day because my actual lovers were as far out into the weird as I am -- we didn't like the conformity of it even when I wasn't alone. The social message of the holiday is "humiliate anyone who's single or in a bad relationship."
However, the history of the holiday is amusing. Unlike certain other commercialized holidays, Valentine's Day was a commercial venture from the point it got named and put on the calendar. It was invented to sell cards. Chocolates and flowers naturally got associated. That it's turned into a display of wealth and romantic success (How good looking is the gal you took out to the expensive restaurant, how much beauty can you afford?) is part of its nature.
I always hated it even if I was in a relationship. It's too conformist. It's not about writing an original love poem or even looking up a good one and copying it out for a lady or picking her wildflowers, or putting on her favorite music and dancing with her, lighting a candle. It's about being seen together socially spending money and showing off.
That's not love, it's competition.
Real love stays home and does something romantic and personal, like leaving an affectionate sticky note in the back of the closet where she'll find it when she's looking for something else or mentioning how beautiful she is on a random Saturday afternoon. I am actually a very romantic man but nothing about this holiday says romance to me.
If I got her red roses on February 14th, all I've done is keep up appearances. If I got her a strange color-changing rose because it was as unique and beautiful as she is in January when the reminders haven't even started, she knows that's for her and about her. If I can remember which rose bush she got wowed by when we visited a garden and get that one to remember the good day we had together, that's personal.
I think that's half of what turns me off about it -- all of the conventional Valentine's Day stuff is so impersonal. It's all intended to be read by millions of strangers.
One gal once told me never to give her red roses because their real meaning is "I slept around on you and this is my apology." The only answer to that is a weird orchid on a day she's not expecting anything.
I only just commented to my partner a few nights ago, "Honey I rushed out today and bought you a Valentine's present". He laughed. We both hate the commercialism of this type of holiday and don't buy into it at all. Oh well maybe once or twice when we were first dating but that was years ago! Really enjoyed your hub, thanks.
I just wonder why Val-Day was in February. Dreary month.
I personally am stuck. My man won't wear jewelry, he has a gazzilion ties.
Maybe a movie ;-)
WAY over commercialized, just another Hallmark Holiday.
One day I found some cute handmade Valentines made by my kids long ago with 'i love you soooo much mom' in their sweet crooked handwriting, now THOSE are special!
Brought tears. (they are teens now, parents of teens will GET that:-)
Heard some morons on the radio this morning cracking jokes about breaking up with a gal right before Valentine's Day so they didn't have to get a gift. Is that funny???
I'd like to take a dozen roses and shove them where the sun don't shine on guys like THAT.
This is just too funny. You know, I was thinking to myself how it sucks to not have a women in my life, but I have plenty of people I love, and it's okay because I don't have to money to buy all that commercial stuff, too. hahaha
BTW, the picture of the man with the hairy back is completely and utterly DISGUSTING! HAHAHAHA! I'm posting this on Facebook.
You are greedy like me Anamika LOL. I cannot imagine having to wait all year for Valentine's Day to receive a "token" of love. For me love needs to be shown everyday.
Cheers for that T. Hugginz!
I already have plans for this year's valentine saved078. I am sure it is going to be fantastic, like all the times that I see my boy. I am never disapointed :)
I'm not a fan of Valentine's Day.When you don't have that special lady in your life,it doesn't mean anything.The best that I can do is to eeach out to those friends who have that special someone in their life.God bless them.Anath,do something nice for yourself.No trouble to comment.
I LOVE Valentines day. It's an absolutely ridiculous holiday, for sure...but I LOVE it. To celebrate "love" for just one day a year seems stingy, to me. The flowers, the candy, lingerey and candle light romance....these are a few of my favorite things. Everyday should be Valentines day ;)
Well, I am the sort who have always hated Valentines day. I want every day to be Valentines Day and make every effort to make it that way. I dislike the special significancw people attach to the Valentines Day.
Wow, what a response... and I thought that I was the only one who didn't like the concept of Valentine's day!
Thanks for sharing your opinions for and against.
I wish lots of love for all of you who bothered stopping to comment!
I'm personally not a fan because I don't like the thought process that I need to do something for my wife...If I want to buy her flowers (which I do), or do something special (which I also do), I just do it because I love her.
I hate Valentine's Day, too. I would much rather spend a quiet evening at home that day than go out and pay a lot extra for some cheap champagne and tacky music, when the very next day we could go somewhere nice and get better food, drink, etc. for half the price. If you love someone then love should be shown every single day, not just when some manufacturers and ad agencies remind you.
If you love someone tell them 365 days a year, not just on Feb 14th. The "plastic" aspect of Valentine's day- the tacky cards, cheesy presents, is positively nauseating. For someone who has lost a loved one, like Christmas, it's another day to be dreaded. The only winners are the greetings card manufacturers and purveyors of cheap tat that just happens to have a heart stuck on it. Ewwwww!
Great hub !
Very very nice hub, 5 stars, valentines is a bussisnes, for a couple should be nice to celebrate valentines everyday, I know about people that does not care about their mates the whole year and want to make it up in one day.
It is true about the gas station chocolates with the price on? I feel sorry for that guy, I guess that taking you to the observatory to watch the stars, or enjoying a chardonnay in the cold sand at the ocean, or the mountain, or in front of a fireplace would sound like a much better option, always will depend of the chemistry between two people. But like we said, we can do this any day, we have 365 of them. Love is a flower, let it grow
I agree! FEB 14th is just another Day. I love hard everyday!!!!
So many anti-commercialization comments on a site primarily dedicated to the opposite. Humm... Grinches are you all? Sorry about the unwanted chocolates, but you know what they say, it's the thought that counts, and as far as original poetry, we're all not poets, and know it. To those who chose to see the glass half full-Cheers and happy Valentine's Day!!!
Noel (Getting laid thanks to Hallmark since 1969)
Hehehehe.
Dad always sent mom flowers for Valentine's Day. Boring I know but she loves flowers so it wasn't. When I was about 10 years old, he sent her a lovely bouquet as usual(they knew my mom at the florist and would always send her something especially lovely), but this year was different. He also sent me a bouquet, same flowers, just smaller scale. That was the first time I ever received flowers as a gift and I was so surprised. Best Valentine's Day ever.
This hub made me one more time to realize that I am from another culture.
We began to celebrate Valentine's day in all former Soviet Union counrties some years ago. For us probably is something new, we enjoy everything new taking into consideration our isolation from the world for more then half a century.
Anyway, I am a very romantic person and dont wait for the new holiday for us to make EVERYDAY a special day. We lived perfectly without it till now.
Agree, You just dont need a holiday to have a romantic bath, breakfast or food play in bed together, etc...
I cherish what I have and recieve everything back doubled!!!
Happy Special Everyday To Everybody!
Love and Happiness!!!
Good Hub, Its alway nice to see others views on any Issue, I understand that there are those that might actually feel some discomfort or pain on Feb 14th, especially if things have not gone well in the Love Shack, but there are so many things that Valentine day does bring about that are so cute and magic, like watch our children work so hard on thiere class room Valentine cards to thier Classes Mates, our all those Loving father and Husbands taking the family out for a great meal giving a Mom the day off. So with associety that has so many things to deal with theses day, a special day popping up here and there does all our hearts some GOOD!
Thanks agin for helping us to think about the magic thats coming up real soon, your clever!!
@ Mortgagestar1,
Thanks for the ego boost!!! lol
Like my heads not big enough already!!
Yeah, Valentine's day is totally overrated. My bf and I are not so crazy about it. We also hate saying "I love you" to each other. So we say "I hate you" instead. That's our secret code, our love language lol Very nice hub, by the way. I enjoyed reading it :)
You only touched the heart of the subject towards the end. Consumerism and marketing are choices - you don't have to give this or that gift. But certainly the pressure is there to celebrate. And as you put it so well, why celebrate love just on that day and not any other day?
If there was no Valentine's day, does that mean a couple will never celebrate the love between themselves? Or do they have to celebrate it on the 14th just because everyone does so? What happens if they want to celebrate it on the 13th or 15th?
This is what I don't like about it - that you are 'expected' to celebrate it, that you have to, and not because you feel like it or you want to do it at a time that suits you.
StormRyder- We find this hard to believe & we are sure there are thousands of men willing to be your Valentine Teddy Bear!
I hate valentines day too....mainly because I have no one to share it with :(
valentins day is always depressing but try ur best to enjoy
Anath,
I LOVE your pictures. Although, I haven't been single in a very long time, I agree with your sentiments.
Love should not be expressed only on mandatory holidays. I am at the point where if my hubby washes the dishes, it is a special occasion and means more than any gift.
Both of my parents used to work for a major greeting card company, so I welcome the receiving them. Allan will never get in trouble for not purchasing me something expensive.
Good luck in your search for that "special someone."
It's sort of awesomely ironic how most of the Google-generated ads on this page are promoting the exact kind of over-commercialism of Valentine's Day that you were complaining about. It kind of proves your point.
I think I most agree with Lisa HW in terms of my Valentine's Day sentiments. I'm probably worse though. I grab at any excuse to be cheesier than usual.
The commercialism could gross me out if I let it, but I decided one lonely V-Day long ago to just go along with it, and now I love everything about it--the more red, tacky, doily-covered crap the better!!
Love this hub though!
Thanks for the great hub I will be reading often.
Its good to hear a women speak against it, I've always found it stupid.
I will come here often. Thanks for the article.
This article is really useful to me.
Thanks for the great hub.
Thanks for the great article.
Then I will return again.
nice to meet you.
(Before getting to the matter of Valentine's Day, I can't help mentioning that I wondered where you live - we haven't had Esso stations around here for decades. They all turned into Exxon. But I digress (if you can digress before ever beginning the real comment). :)
I think Valentine's Day is in the eye of the beholder (or the heart of the beholder, or something). I've never really noticed any of that competitive stuff between women (or girls). It's all fine, as far as I'm concerned. If we're in a relationship, nice - we get some flowers or a dinner or something. If we're not, we put out the conversation hearts and "do whatever".
To me, though, if someone ever gave me some poem from classic literature I'd be nauseated. LOL I guess I really wouldn't want a home-made poem either. I kind of like a good, non-mushy, simple, Hallmark verse that "assumes" no additional words are necessary.
I don't know - maybe I'm just too easy to please, but I can't find anything negative about a day centered around cards, pink candy and, if you're lucky, flowers and a dinner. For those who do have a sweetie, of course, it's always nice to get something involving a tiny diamond or two. :) An early Happy Valentine's Day to you grumpy folks. LOL
I so agree.. its a day with candy you can't eat, people who always seem to have more romantic stuff happening than me.. ever since I was in third grade and we competed to see who got the most valentines.. ugh.
Fun Hubpage!!
Valentines Day is everyday. Forever and always, to share with that person your love :D
But Valentines day Should also Just be a special time.
I'm a new Hubber.I agree too! Its so much hyped --- has drained out the romance out of it and besides reminds me of what I am missing everyday!!
Im in school. So whilst flicking through hubs this was one that actually took my very busy time. Not much people agree with this in our day. Its not such a great thing and its really good to see other people think in these terms. Rated up! Spot on
What a great hub.
First of all, the title alone should be worth a hubscore of 95. Even though you built it out with a list, it wasn't the typical "5 things to buy your honey on valentine's day" list.
Then, when the reader decides to read the first few paragraphs, and finds out that you're a young woman....totally sucked in. :)
so so true! we should celebrate love everytime we can. I been married 7 years and he has never bought me flowers lol the only time he brought me flowers is when he got some for free from work cause some lady hated the guy who gave them to her. :))
Entertaining. I love V-day. Although it sucks my wallet dry. Oh well.
haha nicely done article, very enjoyable read!
haha,me too
Funny Hub Anath [ with the cherry lipslick ]
I so hate Valentine's Day too... listening to my single friends going on about the amazing guy they are going to date, he looks like Mike from Desperate Housewives, yada, yada... and hearing my husband telling me, whilst he's on the can, that for once, this Valentine's is going to extra-special. Woohoo!!!!
I'm not one to rain on people's parade, but on Feb 28th I am hurricane Catrina. I text my single friends in the morning their date for tonite, I hear, is a serial divoricing sociopath - a guy who collects hearts like the Manson family collected corpses. As for my HUB-bie, I just know he will forget by midday, fail to buy me anything at the mal, and be afflicted with six days of guilt. On bliss. Sleeping in a separate room for a week is the best Valentine present he could ever give me :-)
Love hugs and no touching in public,
Francine X
love the blog! very truthfull. Valentines day has become like christmas-a retail frenzy instead of what it actualy should be!
This was so good and very valid. I have just posted a hub on Valentine's day so have given it a bit of thought!
There is no substitute for spontaneity in relationships!
And then not everyone is in a meaningful relationship anyway, nor wants to be.
Thanks for all the comments, it is great to read about your experiences and opinions about Valentine's day. Great to see I am not alone in not liking Valentine's.
A big cheers for love and spontaneous love expressions!!!!
I have to ask, what do you guys think about Sweetest Day? I find that day absolutely laughable. We already have Father's Day, Mother's Day, Valentines Day, and Grandparents Day. What do we need Sweetest Day for? I'd never even heard of it until the first year boyfriend and I were dating and he asked me if I was upset he didn't get me anything for it. I asked him what in the world Sweetest Day was. He confessed he'd never heard of it until earlier in the day when his group of guy friends asked him what he had gotten me for it. When he told them nothing, they all said he could expect to be in a world of trouble and how did he not know about it? My boyfriend said he was willing to bet I'd never heard of the holiday before either, and I hadn't. I don't even remember what month it is in. I refuse to celebrate that holiday. It's even more commercialized than the others.
Great hub. I have to agree with you. There is nothing wrong with celebrating Valentine's Day, but what about all the other days of the year? I would much rather get a surprise thinking of you, or I love you present on a random day throughout the year rather than a day that tells someone, "Don't forget to remind me that you love me!". My boyfriend and I have always agreed to have a low key Valentine's Day. One year I made him cupcakes as a gift. Simple things like that. Now we've decided we're always going to do dinner and a movie. We're celebrating it by being together, but nothing over the top and no pressure to find that perfect gift. I like to find perfect gifts for Christmas and birthdays. Personal things I know he'll enjoy.
I suppose for couples where both people have chaotic careers and families, this may be a good way to make time to spend together. All other days you can always procrastinate and say you'll squeeze in your schedule another time, but it never happens. Valentines Day you can know you'll always plan to be together that day. I guess that's one good thing about it.
I'm not in that situation though, so I'm going to agree with what you have to say. =P
I like the comments that others have left about feeling left out not receiving presents. I've warned my boyfriend in the past - no public gifts. Even if you think it's sweet to show everyone how much you care for me, DO NOT DO IT. All is does is make the people in a relationship hope that their significant other does the same thing so everyone can see it, and those who aren't in a relationship feel left out. Even those who aren't the jealous type. Personally, I always think of flowers at work as a way of bragging. My significant other sent me flowers, did yours? Ugh.
The pressure on couples for Valentine's day to make it perfect takes all the fun out of it for them as well.
If you are single in London going home on the tube on Valentine's night is not a pleasant experience, as there are the lucky smug ones with their bouquets, balloons or whatever prominently perched on their knees as you shrink back into your seat feeling unloved! I might buy my own flowers this year!
Valentines day was turned into what it is by the flower industry. I refuse to play the game, but then I don't need to be told to do nice things for my wife, they just happen.
When you're single Valentines Day can be a downer.
Gotta be one of the most enjoyable reads in a very long time! Love it & keep it up! ... The writing I mean ..LOL)))
I know what you mean here. I remember when I was in high school.... every Valentine's day the students sold carnations, then had them delivered to each other with a note attached. I never received one, never. My friends did...even when it was girl giving to girl, it was the thought that counted. I do remember giving a carnation to someone. Once, somebody felt sorry for me and gave me one of theirs. Big deal. It wasn't the same. I remember always feeling left out. But I'm past it now, for sure. Heck I'd rather go pick out my own candy the day after Valentine's when it's half off or grab one of those big bunches of carnations so I can pick em out myself...I love carnations! I don't remember when the first time a guy gave me a card. Guess I was grown. So if I get a card, cool ..if not, that's cool too. I'd rather receive something spontaneously when I'm NOT expecting it than to expect a Valentine and not get one. Don't you love surprises?
I think it is just a day of nonsense. I hate all those red, foiled, cards and crap.
Although I don't hate Valentine's Day, it has become way to commercialized as does every holiday. We let that happen because we fall for all the BS and competitiveness. Make every holiday and everyday for that matter simple and personal (like the comment by Sally's Trove - great idea). Your hub provoked some good discussion and the pics made me laugh. Good work.
Instead of thinking too much about it, you can change your reality and find your soul mate. If you wait year after year, then that is what you will be doing. Waiting. You should go out there with confidence and change your stars. Out with the old and in with the new is what I always say. Nice article by the way and a great read! Thanks!
Peter shared, memorable moment which are thoroughly enlightening. According to me every day should be valentine day. It is a share of love between friends. Exchanging gifts to our love one enhances happiness to manifold. I love this day at its total peak. Thank for providing such an interesting hub.
I've never really had any connection to valentines day. Just another reason to go buy something. Silly holiday for sure.
Great hub. Very interesting.
Spending Valentine's Day alone is very heartbreaking especially knowing my friends, who are actually not single, spending time with their boyfriends or girlfriends doing something special together.
Valentine's Day is indeed another commercial holiday. The things that couples do on Valentine's Day should be done regardless of what day it is.
Lena
Couldn't agree more. My wife and I, very happy for 30+ years, refuse to waste money on expensive gifts and cards on Valentine's Day.
Hello,
This is a neatly written negative thoughts about Valentine's Day. It reminds me of my positive thoughts, Why Hate When You Can Love?
I loved your hub. My friend has a special dinner and dance lined up for V. with a singer I'd like to see. Yours truly is out since they (couple)would feel so bad for me being all by myself. That sucks, I tell ya.
I feel as you do that most of these holidays/special days are worthless.
Great Hub! Been there, done that, on all 11 counts. ROTF. And I mostly used to very much hate this day for all the reasons you mention and more.
In recent years, though, Valentine's Day has taken on a new meaning for me and the single women in my family. We get together with each other and celebrate the love among us we are so fortunate to have amidst our many losses. We wear something red, go out to lunch, each pick up our own tab, and no gifts except those of friendship and love are exchanged.
Wouldn't it be something to see a table of guys doing the same thing...especially wearing red!
I detest it as well; concurred! Even though I'm in a relationship, I still dislike calendaring days that try to install the fact of ___ something or whatever you suppose to abide by, commercially? WTF? Either way, Valentine's Day will never exist for me.
In my opinion, due to the way marketing campaigns seem to taint every facet of life, I wish they would abolish all of the holidays from the published calendars of today.
It is up to the individual(s) to make their own "special" days and nobody else should have a right to impose otherwise.
A good example of this, although irrelevant or not germane to the topic at hand, is that if you want to celebrate Thanksgiving in July...then so be it. If I want to give you a gift, I shouldn't have to wait until December 25th. There is too much BS out there for me; make your own holidays up as you see fit and better yet, make sure you celebrate, the most important, your own birthday!
Nice hub...
If you are single then V-day is just another day to you (well at least to me). Personally I have never cared too much about love and romance especially back in my younger years. I did not start chasing girls til college. But now romance is the last thing on my mind. Thats why v-day dont bother me that much.
Buy yourself a present, and spend Valentine Day with persons who are good for you, friends, boyfriend, does not matter...
If you ask me, Valentine Day is DAY WHO IS BY CALENDAR MADE TO BE ROMANTIC DAY and it is sweet, but you can be that any time you want, and it is important to be! Where would this world go if person is romantic once a year? :(
And about your question about people who broke up, or still looking for a soul mate... No answer that I give will be perfect! But I believe that if you broke up, maybe it was not real, or something did not work (it can be 1000000 reasons)...! Enjoy, everything will come on place, and be romantic sometimes just FOR YOURSELF!
I made this comment long, he he, do not mind me :) Bye
Thanks for sharing for views on Valentine's day Nicks.
Exactly, we should try to make everyday especial. It is very difficult with all the things we have to do, but love needs nurturing (like a plant, little but often). Once a year is not enough to keep love in a relationship, bengriston, Thanks for commenting.
I have actually always been bothered by what it meant for couples who were together. You should tell them everyday how you feel, not just on one special day.
Surely, within the banality of our daily lives we need some excuse for romance? At least, Valentines provides a regular excuse for giving some thought to our partners with an expectation of actually doing something and making an overt display of the importance of a relationship...
hello Tony, I know Valentine's day is too far away yet and being Anath I cannot wait until then ;-) that is why I had a very naugthy Friday with my especial boy. I even had some chocolates LOL, but I wouldn't mind if you save me some of yours :)
Anath I gotta agree that when I am alone on Valentines day , I feel like a supreme loser. Until this year I had not spent a Valentines day alone in a long time. However I agree that Valentines day does not have much love to it. But has a load of commercialism and marketing. But if nothing else your hub has Inspired me to stay clean shaven.
Anath I just want to leave you with one thought. Valentine's day is a month away. And the only moment that matters is right now ! But I will save ya some choclates
I was being serious kjetil... LOL
You are so right, it is really better to be alone than with the wrong person karmicfilly.
It just dawned on me that this terrible day is coming. I don't look forward to it since I'm not willing to settle and just let someone chose me. I'd rather be alone than be with the wrong person and then have this to dread too, ugh.
I gladly watch my daughter and her boyfriend celebrate and just go do something with a friend.
Very funny hub Anath :)
Thanks, you too :)
Have a good weekend!! :)
That's no bad... 364 days a year twitterdaily!
Thank YOU for sharing your experience. I think that despite everything it is good that you still believe in love and that you still love. Good luck and all the best to you EIF131.
It is funny how it can be the other way round Justine. Your friends are jealous because you have are married and you would like to be in their places being free and enjoying yourself instead of being tied down.
For what I hear VD can be depressing for some people in long relationships as they realize that the romance part of the relationship has gone away...
Thank you dohn, I don't have any plans for Valentine's, I prefer to go one step at a time. I am just happy that I'll be having a romantic weekend starting tonight :)
Lots of love to you, the man who touched me with his love story :)
You really made some excellent points, Anath. I especially liked this line of yours:
I don’t need a special day or a special occasion to tell my boy that I love him that I am head over heels about him. I don’t need someone to remind me in the calendar that it is time to send him a loving card or a message. He doesn’t need a day marked in the calendar to make me feel special.
I could not have said it better myself. For what it's worth, I do hope that you have a great Valentine's Day!
Dohn
darn, you wrote it before I could. I truly started a hub..why I hate Valentine's Day..and was told the title was already taken. I laughed so hard about the furry man!! Thank you for that. On the flip side of things, it stinks to be in a committed relationship, and all your freinds are single. They all go out together, crying how awful it is to be single, they hate me on V-day, becuase Im married, and I sit here, alone in my house, waiting for him to remember I exist!!! I don't feel sorry for them in the slightest, they can go out, eat what they want, they didnt have to cook, light stupid candles, watch them melt... wash dishes, or be alone. Blech, commmercialy forced tokens of affecton.
I see it as a day to celebrate love period. Between friends, family, and children. I'm with you here, it's become way to commercialized and it's just another money making day. Love can be celebrated other ways and shouldn't be just once a year. How awful... Imagine if that special someone isn't here, like you mentioned, or you haven't yet found THE ONE. Oh dear.
My birthday is Jan. 31. For years I've simply settled for one gift combining each holiday and birthday to save money - imagine that. And he did just that. It went on for years and for years I never understood what on earth or why on earth the gifts were less and less meaningful. It's because he was too busy supporting his adult children from his previous marriage, their children, and his sister. They are all employed and doing just fine financially mind you.
Yet, there I was/here I am still trying to comprehend this?
I'm in the process of getting separating because of this. There's more to the story, like spending absolutely no time with me, haven't vacationed in like forever, etc...
With all that's happened, unfolded before me, I still love Valentines Day. Call me whatever. I just still happen to love. My mom, daughter, and good friends. To me that's way more important and it's unconditional.
Great Hub Anath! Thanks for letting me vent - literally!
This is my point of view ...
All those who propose and show there love in Valentine’s Day are big fool ..
WHY ????
coz you will miss all the 364 days of the year of making love..
So i Make love all 364 days and skip the one day...
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That's so touching Hmrjmr1. Thank you very much.
It is a shame that there are not many people (especially men) with a romantic imagination to surprise you with a especial something. A romantic surprise doesn't need to be an expensive surprise, it would be great if more people were to understand that.
A birthday and Valentine's next day... difficult to get someone to surprise you two days in a row. That is why is so important to be romanced everyday.
Anath, I don't like the way it is so commercialized either. Plus, by birthday is the day before, so you're never going to fair well with 2 important days in a row. I'm for romance every day also!
Actually, I have never managed to have a decent Valentine's Day. My birthday is on Feb. 12 so having that marked in any way so soon after Christmas is already a victory. Having another "day" come up two days later has defeated every partner so far. I don't actually care that much. I'm not interested in receiving Valentine tat. Now if someone arranged a totally unique and outrageously romantic surprise (even if it did not cost a penny), I would be delighted. However, I've never been with anyone who had the imagination to do so, and whenever I tried to arrange something for my partner, I always got the "Duh, what's all this about?" reaction LOL!
Patti - Just goes to show there are many educated idots all around us!
Anath Anath to you I say
Loves needed sure on everyday.
Its expression grows o’er years of Love
Like soft red lips, a whisper
Subtle seeds they lay on passions ground
A valentine wish for all year round
Let them grow strong, Vital and True
Let them say everyday “Your Huny Loves You”
Hope you like the poem ,,,, Hmrjmr1
LOL what a shame Patty.
Thank you Maita, I just felt I had to say how I feel about it. Plus I always fancied being someone's inspiration for his most beautiful works ;-)
My mouth is watering just thinking about them lakeerieartists, I hope ypou get some this year :)
Patty, I wonder if some other woman hasn't sorted him out on that score. Parents? You're right, what a dunce.
lakeerieartists - buy fresh strawberries. Buy block of chocolate. Melt chocolate gently in a pan placed in a pan of water on stovetop. Dip Strawberries in melted chocolate. Place on your favorite plate to cool. Buy/rent good romantic movie. Place yourself on your favorite chair. Watch movie, eat chocolate. Enjoy. Repeat process as often as you like. Also works with cherries - watch out for the pip.
If it wasn't for Valentine's Day, I might never get to eat chocolate covered strawberries. :)
Hey Anath, well men should not copy form the poetry already written hehe, I can hear ya, Thank you and I like the way you think, Maita
Valentine's Day was totally ruined for me in college when a boyfriend told me it was only for giving gifts/cards/dinner to one's parents. What a maroon.
Well, if we are a big mix group, people might just think we are swingers :-)
Another very interesting hub Anath. I'm kind of indifferent to Valentine's Day (though I wrote hubs about it) because well, it's just an ordinary day for me :). And the way the price of roses (and other 'love' gifts) shot up during this time of the year, well, I think ralwus and jewels are right, it has become too commercial. But hey, let's just go for a girl's night this Valentine's Day and ignore the stares of those who think we're lesbian. :)
exactly Jewels, romanticism that comes straight from the heart and not from a "canned" festivity.
I don't like it either. Like Christmas, unfortunately it's been hijacked by commercialism. I'm for the spontaneous romantic who doesn't need a reminder.
I love it when someone writes a poem for me, I think it is one of the most romantic things one can do ralwus. Me too, I am a romantic and hate the pressure of Valentine's day. As I said, I want to be romanced every day of the year. If someone can only show that he cares about me ONE day a year; then that person is not for me.
I don't like it either and it is good to hear a woman speak out like this. It is too commercial and puts pressure on almost everyone. I like to surprise my wife at other times when it is more meaningful. btw, I am an old romantic. She loves my poetry.
Thanks for sharing your opinion Peter.
I agree with you that every day should be like valentines day. On the actual day though, whether I am single or not it brings back memories of valentines past...happy days.
Maria Cecilia Level 4 Commenter 3 months ago
see this link after I posted my own hub.. you are right, it's commercialized, if your lovelife is ok, everyday is a like a valentine's day, if not so what...